Thursday, July 28, 2005
Cast your vote
Is it ever okay to give someone an ultamatum? What do you guys think? It could be something as small as "I won't go to the concert with you unless you watch this baseball game with me," to the huge "Unless you propose soon, we're over!" I'm sure we have all thought about giving an ultamatum at some point in our lives, but how many people actually do it?
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I don't like making ultimatums. it never seems right. i mean, decisions should be based on reality, what's happening NOW. if you propose an ultimatum, "if you don't do this, than i'll do this," who knows if what they do is genuine. most likely it wasn't.
i think an agreement would be better, or simple talking. "if this doesn't happen, this is something i may do."
of course, with everything, nobody wants to feel threatened, so that should be taken into consideration.
generalities, of course.
I agree with Val. I know that when I am "commanded" to do something my natural reaction is to either not do it or do it miserably.
I think that, in lieu of an ultimatum, simply keep open good lines of communication. If you are able to have an open and honest communication with whomever, then you should be able to communicate whichever need you have and they will respond in kind, whereas giving an ultimatum just seems so....pushy.
Anyway, that's just me. Have a wonderful weekend!
I think ultimatums can be a good thing.
For example, a girl may think, "If my unemployed boyfriend doesn't havea job in six months, it's over." Or, "If he cheats, I'm gone." Or, "We've been together five years; if he doesn't seem marriage-minded this year, I'm moving on." Ultimatums keep you in check and remind you of what's important.
BUT...and here's the important thing...I don't think that these types of ultimatums should EVER be shared with a partner...they're strictly for you to use when you're giving your relationship some serious thought. If you start telling someone, "Unless you do this, we're finished", they'll never do it. Worse yet, they'll do it, hate it, and resent you for it.
My two cents...
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